Person A is falling into a black hole. Person B is an outside stationary observer. I know according to person A they fall into a black hole and die in the singularity. Easy.
Now let's talk about the perspective of person B.
Can an outside observer (person B) assign a moment in time on their wristwatch and say "in x minutes on my watch person A crossed the event horizon" or "in x minutes person A is going to be at the event horizon"? What would be the difference in "crossed" and "be at the horizon" be in terms of the proper time of person B if any? I know person B wont be able to assign a moment in time on their wirst watch that'd correspond to A dying in the singularity because it'd take an infinite amount of time on B's watch for A to meet the singularity because on B's watch the black hole singularity doesn't exist. It forms infinitely far in the future.
The question rephrased: Will person A cross or be at the event horizon in a finite amount of proper time on persons B wristwatch? Or would it take an infinite amount of time on B's watch for A to cross/ be at the event horizon? I don't care if B can see A doing it. It's not a visibility issue. I want to know if A crossing the event horizon is happening in a form of an event on B's watch. I'm aware that light gets redshifted and B won't ever see person A cross the horizon but is it going to happen on B's timeline/ can B assign a time on their watch when? As far as I'm aware they won't even see A at the horizon. The last "place" where B sees A is just immediately right above the horizon. They won't see A at the horizon anymore since light would take an infinite amount of time on B's watch to reach an outside observer (B) from the event horizon. But is B going to be able to say that for example at 2pm on their watch (even tho B can't "see" it!) person A crossed the horizon no matter if B sees A doing it or not? B knows they can't see it because of the redshift but can B say it "happened"?
Being able to "see" something happening is not the same as something actually happening? Just because I don't see something doesn't mean it isn't? "Being" and "seeing" shouldn't be equal? Or is it the same in relativity? So does not being able to see something happening equal to it not happening on my timeline?
When I look at the Penrose diagram I can see that the singularity from the point of view of an outside observer forms infinitely far in the future. A singularity doesn't exist for an outside observer? So on B's wristwatch it takes an infinite amount of time for A to reach the singularity. So B can never say A died. Cause as long as B's universe exists A never dies? Person A only dies in the infinite future (according to B's watch). Does the event horizon also take an infinite amount of time to form according to B's watch/ does it take an infinite amount of time on B's watch for A to reach the horizon? (It'll take an infinite amount of time to see it but how much time for it to happen as an event on B's watch if it can even happen?) If it takes an infinite time to form how is this evident on the Penrose diagram? (It is evident in the case of the singularity).
Is this a logical conclusion?: If the event horizon for B exists then B has to be able to assign a time on their watch when A is there/ crosses? If the event horizon for B forms infinitely far in the future meaning it doesn't exist for B then and only then B won't be able to assign a time/ event on their watch/timeline that'd correspond to A crossing it? So that'd mean that not only singularities don't exist for outside observers but also event horizons don't exist for outside observers. The event horizon only comes into being for an observer as they cross it?
Question doesn't seem to be a duplicate of: Can black holes form in a finite amount of time?
nor of
How can anything ever fall into a black hole as seen from an outside observer?
The "Can black holes form in a finite amount of time?" question has an accepted answer but some below are saying that the accepted answer is just false and "completely wrong".
Apparently the blue and red "time slices" showed in question 1 are wrong and "misinformation".
Same goes for the second question. Everyone seems to be saying different stuff. Even some answers with a couple of upvotes are questionable.
Anyways the point is there's no precise answer to this question. People are arguing, discrediting each other or just giving wrong answers/ contracting answers. So what's right?