I just worked through the derivations of the Yukawa interaction for scalar and spin one particles (i.e. Peskin and Schroeder, end of chapter 4, which covers the tree-level Feynman diagram). It's very satisfying to see that the sign of the interaction is uniquely determined, but I don't feel like doing this calculation gave me much physical insight into why even-spin forces are only attractive, but odd-spin forces like QED can be attractive or repulsive. There are so many minus signs to keep track of, but one of them gives us a very fundamental fact about nature.
A nice piece of intuition from classical electrodynamics is that the attractive/repulsive nature of the force comes down to how electric fields interfere constructively or destructively in space. As particles are brought closer together, the energy of the surrounding field changes, giving rise to an attractive or repulsive potential depending on the relative sign of the charges. This gives a nice visual explanation for why classical electromagnetism can yield repulsion or attraction, by thinking about how vector fields interfere in free space. See note below.
My question is, can we come up with a similar simple picture when thinking of force-carrying bosons? Can one easily see how the spin of the force-carrying boson gives different results depending on whether the spin is even or odd? I suppose this question is closely related to how we take the classical limit of the free-space field.
To clarify the second paragraph, the fields generated by two positively charged particles predominantly constructively interfere throughout space. This means that the energy stored in the electromagnetic field increases as the particles are brought together, explaining the repulsive interaction. The opposite is true for a positively and a negatively charged particle brought together.