Assume we have a real Klein Gordon field $\phi(x,y,z,t)$, and we do the non-relativistic expansion of it in terms of a complex field $\psi(x,y,z,t)$ $$\phi=\frac{1}{\sqrt{2m}}(\psi e^{-imt}+\psi^* e^{imt}).\tag{1}$$ Notice that in the non-relativistic limit, $\psi$ obeys the Schrodinger equation $$i\dot{\psi}=-\frac{\nabla^2\psi}{2m}.\tag{2}$$ We have the energy momentum tensor of the Klein Gordon field $$T^{00}=\frac{1}{2}\dot{\phi}^2+\frac{1}{2}(\nabla \phi)^2+\frac{1}{2}m^2\phi^2.\tag{3}$$ If we substitute $\phi$ in terms of $\psi$ and neglect all terms that are highly oscillating (i.e. containing factor of $e^{\pm 2imt}$ after the substitution ), we have the following expression of the $T^{00}$.
$$T^{00}=\frac{1}{4m}(2\dot{\psi}\dot{\psi^*}+2im\psi^*\dot{\psi}-2im\psi\dot{\psi^*}+4m^2|\psi|^2+2(\nabla \psi)\cdot(\nabla \psi^*)).\tag{4}$$
Then the energy of the Klein Gordon field should be given by $\int d^3x T^{00}$. Then the $4m^2|\psi|^2 $ term will integrate to give m, which is the rest energy of the particle
The $2\dot{\psi}\dot{\psi^*}$ term can be neglected, as it is suppressed by the non-relativistic factor compared with other term, for example
$$(\nabla \psi)\cdot(\nabla \psi^*)\sim p^2\psi^2,\tag{5}$$ $$\dot{\psi}\dot{\psi^*}\sim \frac{p^4}{m^2}\psi^2,\tag{6}$$ Where $p$ is approximately the momentum of the $\psi$ field, and $\frac{p}{m}\sim \frac{v}{c}\ll 1$ according to non-relativistic assumption.
However, it seems to me that the kinetic energy term is with the wrong coefficient, because $$\frac{i\psi^*\dot{\psi}-i\psi\dot{\psi^*}}{2}+\frac{1}{2m}(\nabla \psi)\cdot (\nabla \psi^*)=\psi^*(-\frac{\nabla^2}{m}\psi).\tag{7}$$ The equation makes use of the Schrodinger equation and is up to total spatial derivative, which plays no role in integration
Then, it seems to me that $$\int d^3x T^{00}=m+\langle\psi|-\frac{\nabla^2}{m}|\psi\rangle=rest \quad energy+ 2\times kinetic\quad energy.\tag{8}$$ That is, the coefficient of the kinetic energy is different from the naive expectation $E_{rel}=E_{rest}+E_{kin}$ by 2.
Can anyone tell me what is happening here? Why is it off by a factor of 2? I also have the question: When we talk about energy, which energy are we talking about? Which energy is observable or physical? For example, the field may represents some axion cloud that evolves around a gravitational potential. And the gravitational potential provider (some star, for example) may exchange the energy with the axion cloud. Which energy should I use when we discuss this "backreaction" problem? The energy of the $\phi$ field or the energy of the $\psi$ field?