Assume a constant density of the air $\rho$.
Consider an imaginary tube of air in the region of the candle, of area $A_{\rm open}$ and speed $v_{\rm open}$, being reduced to an area $A_{\rm lips}$ and speed $v_{\rm lips}$ at the lips.
Using conservation of mass $A_{\rm open}\, v_{\rm open}\, \rho =A_{\rm lips} \,v_{\rm lips}\, \rho$.
This is a greatly simplified analysis of what happens when you are sucking.
If $A_{\rm open}\gg A_{\rm lips}$ then the candle is in a region where the speed of the air $v_{\rm open}$ is not moving very fast and so is not blown out.
When you blow the air through your lips the air is directed towards the candle through the imaginary tube of air which only increases in area by a relatively small amount as blowing the air through your lips gives the air momentum in a direction of the candle.
In this case the speed of the air is fast enough to blow out the candle.
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When sucking the air which eventually enters the lips comes from a multitude of directions whereas when blowing the air exiting the lips is moving in approximately one direction.
Having the nozzle of a vacuum cleaner a few centimetres above a surface is not a very efficient way of removing dirt from a surface.
To remove the dirt efficiently the nozzle needs to be placed close to the surface to ensure that the air passing over the dirt is fast moving.
You could suck out the candle if you have your lips around the candle!