I am quite suspicious about the the andromeda paradox and I am sure I am just lacking a detail.
So let us assume Andromeda sends out a for my friend Bob deadly emission (I will survive the emission). Bob and I do not know about this yet. However we both agree to shoot a photo of andromeda the moment I run into Bob. (we both are in the exact same place)
Now I walk straight into bob with humanly speed. Bob stands still. The moment I run into bob is the time the deadly emission is first detected by me. Surely bob is dead now. Surely Bob agrees that he is dead.
So, I assume that we can define simultaneity: The moment we hit into each other.
What is wrong?