I think my question is largely a duplicate of this one. But I'm not sure.
Isn't the following quote by John Archibald Wheeler a bit circular, almost a chicken-and-egg situation?
Spacetime tells matter how to move; matter tells spacetime how to curve.
Specifically, I am envisioning a situation where mass moves through time into the future. As it does this, I also envision it changing its location in space, let's assume traveling with constant velocity. I suppose as it does this, it creates waves in spacetime so that it can communicate the fact that its location and thus gravitational effects have changed to the rest of the universe. This wave will propagate with time, deforming 4D spacetime. But on some level, it does not make any sense for the shape of 4D spacetime itself to change and evolve with time. This would mean there are two dimensions of time: the first that is part of 4D spacetime, and a second across which that 4D space itself evolves.
I think my question is probably the same as this one because it asks about when/why we treat spacetime as dynamic versus static. In some situations, it seems like we treat 4D spacetime as a static, unchanging object through which various objects have fixed and timeless worldlines. Other times, it seems like the spacetime itself adjusts dynamically as moving mass warps it and causes gravitational waves. Without thinking about it too hard, this seems contradictory. How can I have a fixed and timeless worldline in 4D spacetime if the space itself is changing with time?
One partial possible answer is the comment from this answer written by ohneVal which discusses how objects that experience movement in space due to gravitational waves experience exactly that—movement in space, and only space. But I'm not sure how helpful this is because ultimately it seems like the objects will still be moving in some way through spacetime, and that this spacetime must evolve over time because if it didn't, then how else would its curvature ever change if not through time passing?
Another possible partial answer is this, which says spacetime itself can have an acceleration vector but not a velocity vector, but not much is said about what this means.
Another interesting idea is in this and this answer, which state that is wrong to think of 4D spacetime as moving:
The river picture leads people to wonder why black holes don't just suck up everything around them, and how the space that flows into them is replenished. Those would be reasonable questions if the river picture made sense, but it just doesn't.
Truth be told, I am curious what the source of spacetime is that replenishes it as it gets sucked up into the black hole; for rivers, we have snowmelt and rain.
Finally, the duplicate question does have some partial answers, for example:
Contrasted to your "dynamic model", your "static model" is more faithful to what spacetime objectively is. It's a 4-dimensional manifold. It can't evolve with time -- it already encompasses time!
but I find this a bit unsatisfactory in the sense that simply stating spacetime does not evolve with time does not really explain how its curvature is supposed to change if not through or with time. The other answer seems to misinterpret the mental model of a "static" spacetime being envisioned by the question asker.
Notes: maybe relevant previous posts: static spacetime, visualizing spacetime not too relevant previous posts: i think this is asking if time is even a dimension at all, multiple time dimensions do exist in string theory, how to visualize multiple time dimensions other links worth looking at: reddit