i am wondering if saying that we “move through spacetime at the speed of light” is something genuinely derived or just a matter of definition
I would say that the truth is somewhere in the middle. The four-velocity is defined as $$\frac{dx^{\mu}(\tau)}{d\tau}$$
We can look at this expression from the perspective of Newtonian physics. The top is a change in position and the bottom is a change in time, so a change in position divided by a change in time is a velocity. Since these are relativistic quantities it makes sense to think of this expression as the relativistic generalization of velocity.
We can also look at this expression from the perspective of geometry. Since $d\tau=\sqrt{dt^2-(dx^2+dy^2+dz^2)/c}$ it can also be looked at as the relativistic generalization of an arc length. Geometrically when you divide a change in position by a change in arc length you get a unit tangent vector.
So what we naturally think of as the relativistic generalization of velocity is also a relativistic generalization of a unit tangent vector. These properties are then perhaps a bit unsurprising. It is a unit vector, so of course the length is always the same, and it should be unsurprising that the length of the unit vector is c given how frequently we set c=1.
So overall it is a straightforward consequence of the mathematical framework. The four-velocity is a unit vector and unit vectors have unit length. It certainly strengthens the argument for considering relativity in terms of geometry, but the fact that a unit vector has unit length is otherwise not as insightful as some pop-science authors want to make it seem. The important geometrical insight is typically given short shrift in such works.