My focus is on condensed matter physics, so I've never really explored this question although it always seemed curious to me. My "immediate reaction" intuition would dictate that cold metal atoms would come together to form a metal, but obviously this isn't the case AMO physicists would have a lot less to work with.
If I understand correctly what I've read, typically in a high vacuum atoms are separated from their source (a piece of metal) by laser ablation, vaporization or some other method that produces "hot" atoms, and then the atoms are trapped and cooled through a combination of laser cooling and evaporative cooling. That explains how one can prepare gaseous metal atoms, but it doensn't yet explain why they stay that way.
Why don't the atoms condense again when they come into contact? If they have no net charge and hence don't attract one another, are their collisions just too infrequent for it to matter over experimental timescales, even when many atoms are in the same trap?
Another explanation I could think of is like activation energy. Is there a repulsive barrier that the neutral atoms would need to overcome to reunite, but which they cannot overcome because they've already been cooled?