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My boyfriend switches on and off between working in the city and working out of town. Previously my one cat was unbothered by him coming and going, but this last stretch he is visibly protesting him not being here. He cries at the door the entire morning and yowls in the evening and throughout the night.

Both have my cats have always looked out the door when I get home to see if he’s home, and have responded in varying ways over time. From ignoring him while he’s home, to eventually greeting him at the door when he gets home.

I’ve worked through a lot of training with my cats over their 2.5 years with me, (they’ll be 3 in May). The one came from abuse/neglect situation and was food aggressive, and has had multiple extra vet visits for continuing stomach problems. But this one has me stumped. The cat that has been crying is such a good cat, and I truly think he misses my boyfriend. I’m still the primary human choice when my boyfriend is home. He has shown separation anxiety tendencies in the past with me but we have worked through that and adjusted as needed, I am beyond stumped with what to do now.

I spend my evenings at home after work and the majority is spent playing with and cuddling with my cats. Their food is always accessible and their water is full and clean. Their litter boxes are clean too. They’re due for their annual visit soon, but he shows no sign of illness or anything of the sort. I’m hoping someone has dealt with something similar and has some suggestions.

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It's worth noting that the cat may have noticed that this behavior gets you to make a fuss over them, and may be doing it for that reason. If so, giving them something else to distract themselves with and otherwise ignoring the yowling may be the best course of action, even if it requires sleeping with earplugs for a few weeks.

Even when neutered, some cats also just become more vocal as they get older, for no good reason any human has been able to figure out. My female cats, both fixed, developed a habit of delivering a brief aria every now and then, yowling for half a minute or so. It didn't seem to be directed to me, but it almost never occurred when the cat was in line of sight to me ... though the separation might be just being around a corner. My veterinarian agreed that cats just do this sometimes for their own reasons, and that since I have been known to sing to myself it's only fair to let the cat do likewise.

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