Consider a spherical symmetric mass distribution in space, located around the origin of a coordinate system. One can forumlate a stress-energy-tensor $T^{\mu,\nu}$ for this situation. Solving the Einstein-field-equations for a reference frame, in which that mass distribution is not moving one obtains the Schwarzschild-metric $g_{\mu,\nu}$.
One can now try to find the path $x^\mu$, on which a particle moves, if it is exposed to the attractive gravitational "force" (see below for clarification) of that mass distribution.
One usually does that like this:
If the particle is left alone, it will travel on the path with least length from point A to point B, that is it will minimize the path length
$$ L = \int ds = \int \sqrt{g_{\mu,\nu}(\lambda) \frac{dx^\mu}{d\lambda} \frac{dx^\nu}{d\lambda}}\ d\lambda $$,
similar to the least action principle in classical lagrangian mechanics (see this for a exemplary calculation in special relativity / flat spacetime).
Here $\lambda$ is an arbitrary parametrisation of the path $x^\mu(\lambda)$.
From this, one obtains differantial equations (the equations of motion) for $x^\mu$. If we take $d\lambda = d\tau$ with $\tau$ proper time, we get the geodesic equations:
$$ \frac{d^2x^\mu}{d\tau^2} = - \Gamma^\mu_{\ \ \alpha,\beta} \frac{dx^\alpha}{d\tau} \frac{dx^\beta}{d\tau} $$.
The right hand side can be thought of, as the gravitational "force" (see above). Solving those equations, one finally obtains the path of the particle. This solution is subject to two inital conditions, e.g. inital velocity $\frac{dx^\mu}{d\tau}(0)$ and position $x^\mu(0)$, as this is a second order ordinary differential equation.
There is a border called "event horizon" or Schwarzschild-radius $R_S$, for that, if the particle is initially inside this horizon, there exists no initial velocity $|\frac{d\vec{x}}{dt}| = v \le c $, such that the particle can ever get outside. Equivalently: There is no path from within the event horizon to its outside. If the mass distribution is supported in the horizon, the situation is usually called a black hole. In a similar way one finds: There is no path from the outside to the inside.
Consider the following example: Take spherical coordinates and assume the particle is initially at rest in radial direction, that is $\frac{dr}{dt} = 0$, at some radius $r=R > R_S$. Solving the geodesic equations, one finds for the elapsed time $\Delta t$ for the particle to travel to the radius $R_S \le r < R$:
$$ \Delta t = \sqrt{\frac{R}{R_s} - 1} \left( (\frac{R}{2} - R_S)\cdot \alpha + \frac{R}{2}\cdot \sin(\alpha) \right) + 2 R_S \cdot \tanh^{-1} \left( \sqrt{\frac{\frac{R}{r}-1}{\frac{R}{R_S}-1}} \right) $$
with $\cos(\alpha) = \frac{2r}{R} - 1$ (see this for calculation and ignore everything beyond the above result). The first term is alright but the second is problematic since $\tanh^{-1}(\dots) \rightarrow \infty$ as $r \rightarrow R_S$. So we have $\Delta t \rightarrow \infty$ as $r \rightarrow R_S$.
For a light signal directed along the radial component we have:
$$ dt = \pm \frac{1}{1-R_S/r}~dr $$
and therefore for the time that the light signal takes to go from $R$ to $r$:
$$ \Delta t' = \Delta r - R_S\ln\left( \frac{r-R_S}{R-R_S} \right) $$
with $ \Delta r = R - r$. Similar we have $\Delta t' \rightarrow \infty$ as $r \rightarrow R_S$
In short: It takes an infinite amount of time to approach the event horizon of a black hole. Nothing will ever fall into it! Note that this holds for an observer that is at rest relative to the mass distribution. For this observer there is no information paradox or anything else.
Now what happens for an observer that travels with this particle? The particle is falling freely so its own reference frame is an inertial system (equivalence principle)! That is, there is no curvature of space if things are observed relative to the particle (this can be shown entirely by coordinate transformation). For this observer, apparently, there is no black hole, Schwarzschild-radius, event horizon or anything like that. Nevertheless, he will still approach the mass distribution. For him, when he has traveled to the radius $r$ relative to the first observer, the proper time
$$ \Delta \tau = \frac{R}{2} \sqrt{\frac{R}{R_S}} \left( \alpha + \sin(\alpha) \right) $$
will elapse. This is finite for all $r$. He can get pass the point, which the other observer would call an event horizon.
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Still, there should be said someting about idealisation here:
We assumed that the mass distribution is at rest relative to some observer. I'm not sure at which rate of acceleration spacetime becomes flat enough to let go of the properties like event horizon etc. (apperently the free fall acceleration does the job but there could be an intermediate border). Also, we assumed the particle to be entirely massless (since we have not considered its mass $m$ in the mass distribution). This is a good approximation if $\frac{m}{M} << 1$, where $M$ is the total mass of the initial mass distribution. Still there might be some non-continious change in the behaviour for $m \ne 0$. I have never done such exact calculations in the above manner. So take all this with caution.